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Casual Singles And The Threesome
The most common casual single fantasy is that of the threesome. Though more common among men, women fantasize about having two men. Regardless of its configuration, the threesome can be exhilarating, exhausting, and complex.
Trust
This is the biggest issue in the two woman one man configuration. The chances for emotional complications are astronomical, but there are ways to work around these.
Arrange the threesome with another couple via a casual singles website.
Threesomes with one member of a couple you regularly swing with, work well when their spouse is out of town, with everyone’s consent of course. Knowing that people who care are spending time with the spouse left at home can be a comfort, and the trust level is already high.
Be sure the third person isn’t drastically different from either spouse.
This should never be an exercise in humiliation. If your spouse is over 30, inviting a 22 year old for a threesome is a sure way to make sure all swinging stops. The marriage may end as well. Be kind, be sensitive, be realistic.
Agree on frequency.
Weekly threesomes have a detrimental affect on trust. Discuss the reasons for having the threesome, then talk about frequency without trying to get more than your spouse is comfortable with.
Avoid including complete strangers. Even if you find them on a casual singles site….get to know them a bit first through chat, email, etc.
Picking up someone a bar and then inviting them to a threesome is unacceptable. Do we have to discuss why?
Reciprocity
This isn’t an issue for some, but the woman consenting to a threesome with another woman, may expect to have her night with a male being added. Unless she wants to see the two fellows enjoying sexual activities with each other, there is little reason for anyone’s masculinity to be insulted. The same rules listed above should be observed, with one caution.
It is better to choose the man from a married couple you are familiar with, rather than putting an ad on an adult dating site. The sheer number of responses can put a real damper on the experience before you actually meet anyone.
Patience
Men may find it impossible to get an erection and women may not become arouse during the first, or even the second, threesome. Nerves, curiosity, and learning how to simply move around in a bed consume a lot of mental energy. It takes a bit for the sexual energy to develop. Being patient with the process will lead to greater enjoyment. Put aside stories and fantasies and focus on the people involved. Learning to please each other begins…with each other.
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