Casual Dating: Intimacy vs. Sex
…and how to tell the difference..
The Way to a Woman’s Heart- Intimacy vs Sex:
What is intimacy?
Intimacy is the detailed and deep understanding of another person. It takes time, patience, and conversations that explore how a woman thinks and what she has experienced. Respect women seeking a long term relationship or marriage by building intimacy first. It is an unexpected exercise in self control for some men and, if you are one who doesn’t care to build a long term relationship, then there are women looking for something more immediate, explosive, and recreational. Don’t inflict your desires on those who are not looking for the same thing, don’t skip reading profiles before contact!. Intimacy, for now, will not be linked to sex or visual stimulus, but to building trust and deep understanding online.
Steps toward Intimacy:
Favorite foods, colors, musicians, and other areas where personal emotional investments usually occur, are the best places to begin conversations. These build the basis for that first face to fact date and start your thinking about HER first. If you feel a bit shaky about this step, try writing a little list of things you might feel comfortable talking about within the same categories. Her hobbies provide an area that she can share information comfortably. Ask and then listen. This is a window into her private time. She shares on her terms and you show that you can be a good listener.
Ask her what she would like you to call her. This immediately shows respect, self control, and makes your eligibility quotient go up by at least half a point. Avoid hun, honey, sweetie, dear, and any other platitude. If you wouldn’t use a phrase or name when talking to a police officer, don’t use it when chatting with a woman on line, especially if you hope to actually talk to her more than once. If she prefers you call her a pet name, she can let you know. Don’t assume.
What about Sex?
There are few circumstances where you can expect sex or sexual behavior unless you are paying for the experience. Barring that, your best tool, again, is the profile. The type of picture along with the words, you will still need to read them, will let you know ho open a woman is to simple sex play as part of the on line dating experience. I these situations, safety is rarely an issue as your activities will probably be limited to the safety of distance during enough conversations that the woman will have decided to meet you, or not, in person.
Women open to sex play usually don’t usually have to be asked for revealing photos, and might not be interested in talking about subjects outside of sex. Here, intimate refers to the location of body parts and acts performed in private, not the detailed and deep understanding of another person. It is far from the emotional and psychological areas associated with the trust that is built over time and with effort. This is the way toward web cam sex. It doesn’t exclude the possibilities that other things will develop but it is not always the path to a woman’s heart and she can remain emotionally uninvolved.
On line Dating Success:
When the eligible bachelor is sensitive to these nuances he he can attract women and develop satisfying relationships. It might take practice, but a relaxed and mindful man is what most women crave. Take your time establishing intimacy by learning your potential partner’s mindset and goals on Her terms. The path to a woman’s heart starts between her ears.