Getting The Girl No Matter Where You Are Chillin.
Guide To Casual Dating
A couple of years ago, I was at this club. The music was really great and everybody in the world seemed packed into this two level party extravaganza. I was standing at the bar getting ready to buy myself and some friends another round of drinks when a handsome guy slid in next to me. He looked at me out the corner of his eye and smiled before he ordered his beverage. I had expected him to try to talk to me so my guard was already up, but he never did. He simply said “Hi” got his drink and walked away. As he moved through the crowd he turned one last time to look at me, I know this because I had been staring since he’d walked away. Why the stare you ask, not because he was handsome, even though he was, but rather because he had done something different to spark my interest. In this tipsy topsy game of casual dating, it is important to differentiate yourself from the hoard of other guys on the prowl at the club. This goes for in the club, at the party, and even online at your favorite casual singles or intimate dating website. But for those of you who want to know the tricks of the trade I’d be more than happy to share.
One of the main things that you want to do when you go out into any social setting whether it be a bar, nightclub, lounge, social gathering, or casual dating site is to differentiate yourself from the crowds in a good way. One of the best ways to go about this is to spark a girl’s interest, but you won’t make a spark by doing the same things that ten other guys have already done before you. As with the guy that I met, sometimes silence can get you further than words. Here’s something that I want you to try. The next time that you go out use your eyes to flirt instead of your mouths. Women do it all the time, that’s our way of letting you know that we are interested. This is not a one sided strategy, both sexes can use it to their advantage.
But before you can get to the eye contact part, you have to do a couple of very important things. First, make sure that you will see here again. In a club setting it is extremely likely. Second, make the initial first contact, but say nothing more than “hi” or “hello”. I know you may be tempted to go further, but trust me it’s for the best. In the off chance that she begins to talk to you without you prompting her (it does happen from time to time) be polite and interested, but not overly excited. After you get your drink don’t linger!!!! I can not express this enough. Politely excuse yourself with something along the lines of “I really have to get back to my friends, but I hope that I see you around” or “Make sure you save a dance for me later”. Don’t forget to smile and let her know that you are interested.
Do not wait until the end of the nigh to find her again, about thirty minutes should suffice. Find her on the dance floor or wherever she might be, but don’t approach her. Chill out in a spot where you can see her and she can see you, but you’re not hovering. Always make it seem like a coincidence that you all saw each other, nothing should seem planned. If you have a wing man, that’s even better. Talk to your wing man, but make sure to deviate from him often to look at her. Now on to the next move. Have a waitress find out what she is drinking and have it sent over. Make sure that the waitress tells her who it is from. Smile politely and raise your drink as a gesture of a toast.
Now in this case, one of two things can happen. One, if she is anything like myself, she will get up and come over to thank you for the drink and talk to you further. In which case your wing man must already know to get up and leave if she approaches, so make this very clear to your friend. Or Two, she will wait for you to approach, at which time you bestow the cu de gra. Give her a second to work on her drink, maybe ten minutes or so before approaching. When you walk up, make sure to acknowledge her friends first, the conversation should go something along the lines of this “Hello ladies, how are you doing? Do you mind if I borrow you beautiful friend for a moment, I just want to ask her a quick question?” If she doesn’t budge, then you misread the signs and she was never interested from the beginning, but if she gets up to talk to you then you in. From here my dear boy I cannot guide you, the rest is on your shoulders. Just remember to be charming, funny, and slightly cocky and he girl will be all yours. As far as me and that guy at the club, we’ll he’s the one that pulled this move on me, and we’re late night buddies if you know what I mean. So there is some method to this madness. This should help you in the clubs and on the casual singles sites. See ya next time 
XOXO,
Nikki
